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The Following Resources May Be Helpful On Your Healing Journey

I've gathered some of the books, websites, and other resources that have been meaningful to me, along with places to find additional support.

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Working through childhood trauma has taught me that there isn't one approach that works for everyone. Therapy has been an important part of my own experience, as have Reiki, flower essences, and other ways of caring for myself.

 

My hope is that something here might help you better understand what you're experiencing, find someone who can support you, or simply feel a little less alone.

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I'll continue adding to this collection as I come across things I think are worth sharing.

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Finding Support:

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Complementary Practices & Other Resources:

 

Books I've Found Helpful:

  • Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma by Pete Walker 

  • What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo

  • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson 

  • The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, Revised Edition by Alice Miller

  • Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward

  • Radical Acceptance by Tara Bach

  • It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up with Addiction as Youngsters, Adolescents, and Adults by Claudia Black PhD

  • Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff

  • It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn 

  • Adult Children of Alcoholics by Dr. Janet G. Woititz EdD

  • Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance by Kelly McDaniel 

  • I Hate You (A Love Letter to My Mother): Healing Paper Cuts, Mother Wounds, and Intergenerational Painby Suzanne Manser

  • Paper Flowers: poetry on the mother wound by Jessica Jocelyn

  • Will I Ever Be Good Enough? by Karyl McBride

  • Anchored by Deb Dana

  • Running on Empty by Jonic Webb

  • Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward and Craig Buck

  • Book Of Forgiving by Desmond M. Tutu 

  • Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Recover from Emotional Abuse, Recognize Narcissists & Manipulators and Break Free Once and for All by Don Barlow

  • Inherited Hunger by Rose Brik

  • The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Dr. Robin Stern

  • Was It Even Abuse?: Restoring clarity after covert abuse? by Emma Rose Byham

  • The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatmentby Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert M. Pressman

  • Holding Space: On Loving, Dying, and Letting Go by Amy Wright Glenn 

  • The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief by Francis Weller

  • my father's eyes, my mother's rage by Rose brik 

  • Forgiving What You Can't Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That's Beautiful Again by Lysa TerKeurst 

  • Scapegoat: Surviving my Narcissistic Alcoholic Parents by Kara Creek

 

Websites and Further Reading:

  • Blue Knot Foundation - Based in Australia, this website has a lot of useful information that is survivor-focused. It includes information about childhood abuse, neglect, complex trauma, coping, and recovery. I particularly appreciate that it recognizes the harm people experienced, not just their symptoms.

  • National Center for PTSD: Understanding Complex PTSD - Although this is a U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs resource, the educational information isn't limited to veterans. It offers a clear explanation of CPTSD, how it differs from PTSD, and the effects of repeated trauma.

  • Doctor Gabor Mate - Dr. Mate offers a compassionate understanding of how childhood trauma, chronic stress, and unmet emotional needs can shape the nervous system, relationships, and sense of self. His teachings emphasize that many trauma responses are adaptations to difficult experiences rather than personal flaws, helping people develop greater self-compassion and reduce shame. Through his insights on trauma, emotional awareness, and healing, individuals with CPTSD may find validation, hope, and practical perspectives that complement professional trauma-informed therapy. 

  • Doctor Ramani - This is a great resource for narcissistic abuse. She discusses gaslighting, blame-shifting, manipulation, and the confusion and self-doubt that can develop in emotionally abusive relationships. She offers a lot of workshops and resources on her website. Her videos and book It's Not You may be particularly helpful for those trying to grasp the confusing and extremely damaging world of narcissistic abuse.

  • Out of the Fog - This website is particularly relevant for people trying to understand manipulation, emotionally harmful relationships, guilt, and boundaries. It includes practical guidance about recognizing unhealthy behavior. Its framing centers on relationships involving personality disorders. It is specifically a relationship resource, rather than a general explanation of CPTSD.

  • ​Doctor Kristen Neff - Kristen offers information and practices for working with self-criticism and learning to treat ourselves with more kindness. She has workbooks and workshops and works well with presenting other notable speakers on this topic, like Jack Kornfield and Aimee Eckhardt.

  • Complex Trauma Resources - This website offers a collection of articles, books, videos, and educational material developed by people with experience of complex trauma.

  • Wings - Wings supports adults who experienced childhood sexual abuse. They offer educational resources, support groups, and help finding services. This website offers a safety exit option. 

  • One Love - This website offers a lot of information on healthy relationships with the goal of bringing light to the signs of unhealthy relationship behaviors. The center offers support and education for young people, but good advice for those who were not taught what healthy boundaries and relationships look like. ​​

  • What is Gaslighting article - This is an informative article on gaslighting which helped me to understand what gaslighting is. There is a lot more information available on this site that has been helpful as well. This website offers a safety exit option.​​

  • The Elephant Journal - Independent articles that focus on personal growth and wellness.

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A note about health:

Reiki and flower essences are complementary practices, not a substitute for medical care. I do not diagnose or treat medical conditions. If you have a health concern, please consult a qualified healthcare professional.

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